I figured it was time to catch up on so many things going on
in my life right now – I left y’all hanging on the Tone It Up plan, and I feel
like I’ve left so many wedding-related things unsaid. Life has just been super
busy, and when you add summertime into the mix…well, there’s just NO time left!
Not that I’m complaining J
in my life right now – I left y’all hanging on the Tone It Up plan, and I feel
like I’ve left so many wedding-related things unsaid. Life has just been super
busy, and when you add summertime into the mix…well, there’s just NO time left!
Not that I’m complaining J
We are now at less than four months until our wedding day,
and time continues to fly by. Every day I wake up and realize there are so many
small details that still need to be taken care of…but on the upside, I haven’t
had any nightmares lately about being unprepared for the wedding! I will say
that wedding planning has not been all excitement and joy like popular culture
leads everyone to believe. It’s been a bit of a rude awakening that no one (*except your parents) really cares much about your wedding as much as you do – which it’s totally
fine that M & I are the most excited, because it’s our wedding. But
honestly it’s kind of a bummer when people around you are less than willing to
share in your joy. I had thought about keeping all of my “wedding talk” on a
positive note, but I realized that I was lying to myself and to everyone who
reads my blog if I wasn’t speaking from my heart. I tend to make everyone think I’m fine, even when I’m not. I don’t like to burden people at all. But it’s time to be honest. I have to say that my parents
have been extremely supportive throughout all of the wedding planning, and I
know that they want me to have the best day of my life…plus, I’m the only
child, so they only get to go through their child’s wedding one time (and one
time only, I promise J).
and time continues to fly by. Every day I wake up and realize there are so many
small details that still need to be taken care of…but on the upside, I haven’t
had any nightmares lately about being unprepared for the wedding! I will say
that wedding planning has not been all excitement and joy like popular culture
leads everyone to believe. It’s been a bit of a rude awakening that no one (*except your parents) really cares much about your wedding as much as you do – which it’s totally
fine that M & I are the most excited, because it’s our wedding. But
honestly it’s kind of a bummer when people around you are less than willing to
share in your joy. I had thought about keeping all of my “wedding talk” on a
positive note, but I realized that I was lying to myself and to everyone who
reads my blog if I wasn’t speaking from my heart. I tend to make everyone think I’m fine, even when I’m not. I don’t like to burden people at all. But it’s time to be honest. I have to say that my parents
have been extremely supportive throughout all of the wedding planning, and I
know that they want me to have the best day of my life…plus, I’m the only
child, so they only get to go through their child’s wedding one time (and one
time only, I promise J).
Truthfully, I’ve just been letting the stress and
discontentment with others drag me down recently, and unfortunately, it’s put a
bit of a damper on the excitement surrounding wedding planning. I’ve said a
handful of times that M & I should just go elope with only our parents
present, but then I picture a gorgeous wedding ceremony with all of our family &
friends surrounding us. Then I get a bit of an attitude and wonder how many of
our “family & friends” will actually share the day with us. There goes my cynicism.
No need to be offended, family & friends. I’m just a stressed out bride who
wants everything to be perfect. The reality is, I know that as long as M &
I are there, sharing our vows with one another, the day will be perfect
anyways. In my mind, I KNOW this much with certainty. It’s just, I think all
girls, especially, dream of their beautiful, unforgettable wedding day and
there is so much anticipation surrounding the big day. When you grow up and the
big day is more of a reality than a figment of your imagination, sometimes
those dreams aren’t as picture-perfect as you’d hoped. I realize this is ONLY
from a wedding standpoint. In terms of marriage, I know without a doubt that M
& I are going to be so overjoyed to finally become a family and to commit
our lives to one another. There’s no
question about that. And for that, I’m so blessed.
discontentment with others drag me down recently, and unfortunately, it’s put a
bit of a damper on the excitement surrounding wedding planning. I’ve said a
handful of times that M & I should just go elope with only our parents
present, but then I picture a gorgeous wedding ceremony with all of our family &
friends surrounding us. Then I get a bit of an attitude and wonder how many of
our “family & friends” will actually share the day with us. There goes my cynicism.
No need to be offended, family & friends. I’m just a stressed out bride who
wants everything to be perfect. The reality is, I know that as long as M &
I are there, sharing our vows with one another, the day will be perfect
anyways. In my mind, I KNOW this much with certainty. It’s just, I think all
girls, especially, dream of their beautiful, unforgettable wedding day and
there is so much anticipation surrounding the big day. When you grow up and the
big day is more of a reality than a figment of your imagination, sometimes
those dreams aren’t as picture-perfect as you’d hoped. I realize this is ONLY
from a wedding standpoint. In terms of marriage, I know without a doubt that M
& I are going to be so overjoyed to finally become a family and to commit
our lives to one another. There’s no
question about that. And for that, I’m so blessed.
This whole wedding is just a
small part of our entire life together, and our marriage is what is really
important. I think I’m just a little bothered by the fact that we’re putting a
lot of our resources into planning a wedding for everyone, not just us, to
enjoy…and I’d be disappointed if people that we thought we could count on end
up letting us down. Am I alone in feeling these “wedding blues”? I think I’ve
just been feeling let-down a lot lately, so my attitude toward wedding planning
has been tarnished a bit. I’m hoping that things will turn up in the months to
come. Either way, I’ve never been more ready to marry the love of my life…and I’ll
keep you posted if we end up eloping before this process is over. 😉
small part of our entire life together, and our marriage is what is really
important. I think I’m just a little bothered by the fact that we’re putting a
lot of our resources into planning a wedding for everyone, not just us, to
enjoy…and I’d be disappointed if people that we thought we could count on end
up letting us down. Am I alone in feeling these “wedding blues”? I think I’ve
just been feeling let-down a lot lately, so my attitude toward wedding planning
has been tarnished a bit. I’m hoping that things will turn up in the months to
come. Either way, I’ve never been more ready to marry the love of my life…and I’ll
keep you posted if we end up eloping before this process is over. 😉
P.S. I promise to talk about Tone It Up next time!
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In all reality people you are counting on ARE going to let you down, and people you least expect to help will step forward and blow you away! Just stay focused on you an M and literally EFF the rest! But I am here to tell you voice your concerns to those folks now!! I made the mistake of keeping my thoughts to myself and friendships ended badly, whereas if I had spoken up before it got "too bad" our friendship may have been salvaged! Don't be afraid to speak up! It's your day! And if folks commit to helping you and being by your sides they need to keep up their end of the bargain! Good Luck sweet pea and feel free to email me if you need ANYTHING or just to vent! I've literally been there and done that 😉
Thanks, Lauran! I appreciate all of your advice…it helps to know that there's someone else who's BEEN there and understands where I'm coming from 🙂 I agree with everything you said – I will definitely make sure that I speak up when necessary. I've had to learn to do that over the past few weeks! Not fun, but sometimes it's necessary. HOPEfully the rest of our wedding planning will go smoothly, and either way, the point is I'm getting MARRIED, right? 🙂
Girl, I went through the same thing. We live 2-4 hours from family so I did everything myself. So I don't know if my expectations were high or not, but my MOH, she was the worst. She would change the subject if I brought up anything wedding related and I didn't even talk about it that much it was mainly asking her opinion for the bridesmaids. I mean, of all my bmaids she gave me the most ulcers. She didn't book her room til last minute. I had to buy her son's ring bearer suit because it was down to the wire and I was afraid it wouldn't get done. She blew off going wedding dress shopping with me. It was pretty awful in my book. So don't feel you're alone. I thought planning was going to be rainbows and butterflies but people really don't care. In the end, I got unlimited compliments about how gorgeous everything was, so doing everything myself proved to be the best anyway.